Seeing your child in pain and feeling helpless must be difficult. I commend you for being able to empathize and understand his situation, reaching out to this forum, and trying to connect with him in other ways (notebook). A couple of things: - show that you’re okay with his stutter, his feelings, and his situation. If you show that you’re heartbroken/sad/helpless he can start to feel responsible, which could then make him angry at you because seeing you disappointed makes him feel worse. You want to empathize with him but not sympathize with him. If you show him that you really believe everything will be okay with him and that you’re not threatened by his stutter, isolation, and anger, he can start to allow himself to find happiness in the midst of the storm. If he knows you’re okay no matter what he goes through, it’ll allow him to trust you, drop the secondary defensive emotion of anger and reveal the sadness and suffering because he knows you can handle it. - active, empathetic, and reflective listening skills is critical in building a strong foundation in the relationship. The hardest thing for me growing up was knowing my parents couldn’t handle my emotions. They would minimize/invalidate/ignore them because they couldn’t handle seeing me suffer. - seek professional help. If you have a good support system, then you can also offer a strong support system to your kid. Psychologists, child development specialists can help a lot. There’s nothing wrong with getting help. No parent is perfect. - Set a routine of something fun to do. Like have a movie night once a week and tell him he can always choose to join if he wants. Something where you’re not concentrating on him but rather sharing something with him. That will offer a safe space for him to connect socially in a less direct way and with good vibes. Hope this helps a bit. :)