Is it really wrong to tell people to try and improve themselves if they have a mindset that something is impossible? I feel for OP as I'm in the same boat, being 31M and no real relationships, but it's clear to me it's due to lack of trying on my part, not that it's out of my reach. A stutter does have a huge impact on our lives, but if we don't try to improve, things will only keep getting harder. I can feel myself becoming more bitter and resentful the older I get, but I hope to get away from that kind of toxic mentality.